Ways To Lead Your Family
Whether you are a father, husband or head of the home as a single, God calls us to lead our home no matter the size. God gives clear instruction and direction on how to lead our home and it’s up to us to follow His lead. Here are a few helpful tips on leading your heart and home God’s Way:
1. Trust God
“Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.”
One of the most effective ways of leading your family comes through trusting God with all of your heart. Trusting God requires a “letting go” of self and “totally embracing” God’s direction and instruction for your life and family. Your ability, or inability, to trust God is directly proportionate to your level of maturity and submission to Him. In order to go and grow in the right direction your family’s prayer life is vital. When prayer is slacking your family becomes stagnate and vulnerable to the enemy’s attacks. Without prayer and your effective spiritual covering, through warfare, your family can veer and shipwreck.
2. Leading With Humility
“The fear of the Lord is the instruction of wisdom; and before honour is humility.”
With submission to God’s direction and instruction, your heart is softened to listen and respond. Proverbs 11:14 states, “Where no counsel is, the people fall: but in the multitude of counselors there is safety.” Who’s your counsel? As you listen and heed to the voice of God, through prayer, and diligently searching His Word, The Holy Spirit will navigate you through every life course and turbulent time. Allowing God to lead your heart and surrounding yourself with both Wise and Godly counsel, God will lead you in the right direction.
3. Lead Selflessly
“Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;” Ephesians 5:25
Leading requires submission and sacrifice. Controlling her heart is not Leading her heart. Love is selfless. Love is pure. Love is kind. Live is gentle. God is Love. And as we follow Christ, as the husband, we are to lead, care for and groom our family’s heart carefully, with diligence and as God leads and instructs. When God guides your family’s ship you will not veer off course. Selflessly give yourself to God and your family and He’ll direct your path. Selflessness reflects how Christ gave himself up for us and turning your heart to Him, even in stressful times, reflects His Love and how He handles us. Ask yourself in stressful times, are my actions reflecting Christ’s Love?
4. Cast Pride On The Altar
“Pride goeth before destruction, and an haughty spirit before a fall.”
Prideful conduct is a precursor to the destruction of a Marriage, family and your home. When you kill prideful actions, you’re effectively crucifying your flesh. Every time you willfully decide to crucify your flesh, by not giving in to your emotions, you begin to reflect the Love of Christ. Killing Pride is a denouncement of self and submission to God. Pride will destroy and contaminate the fruitfulness, ground and environment of your home. Pluck up every prideful seed and sow humility.
5. Forgive Frequently
“Then came Peter to him, and said, Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? till seven times? Jesus saith unto him, I say not unto thee, Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven.”
Forgiving releases you from the shackles of bondage. Reckless emotions and unresolved issues can lead your family astray by sowing seeds of discord. Dissension can ruin a marriage and destroy families. The Bible leads us to get an understanding of the situation before you speak, “Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom: and with all thy getting get understanding.” Proverbs 4:7
Getting understanding in a safe environment leads to reconciliation and heals wounds of the past and present. Forgiveness is in your control. When you’re able to forgive you’re able to set yourself (and your family) free to live, love and function as God intended. Your bondage can become your family’s torment. Shackling your family to mistakes only imprisons the Destiny of your family’s future. So forgive, let go and be free in unity.
6. Guard Your Words
“It is the spirit that quickeneth; the flesh profiteth nothing: the words that I speak unto you, they are spirit, and they are life.”
Your words have the power to build up or to destroy the Destiny of your family. As the husband & father You have the spiritual responsibility to impart into your family’s spiritual ground. It’s up to you to release words in the home that will build up, correct, encourage and empower. Releasing words that damage your home’s welfare sends daggers through the heart of your spouse and family. When you release negative words that counter what God has stated about your family, you’re planting weeds in the garden of your home and in the heart of your family. Choose to guard your words carefully and decide not to entangle your family’s heart with poisonous words that could contaminate the ground of their hearts and limit their Destiny, limiting the next generation.
7. Protect Their Heart
“Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life.”
The word “Keep” means to preserve and to actively maintain and protect against. As you protect and keep the ground of your home, you’re preparing the environment of your family’s heart to produce what God had intended for them to produce. Sowing and holding on to bitterness only stagnates your family’s Destiny and limits your home’s fruitful season. Protect your heart and lead theirs by constantly rehearsing, speaking and internalizing the Word of God in every season. Your diligence to “keep” your heart will prove to be fruitful, even in challenging seasons.
Focus on the Word Meditation: “He that hath clean hands, and a pure heart; who hath not lifted up his soul unto vanity, nor sworn deceitfully.” Psalms 24:4