The kind of relationships we build with people speak volumes about the values we treasure. That’s why we are drawn to people of like minds. So when we discover a person’s character is different from what we expect, the relationship is adversely affected. That’s why it’s important to ensure we are with people who help us discover our true worth, rather than negative people who hold us back.
Imagine, being surrounded by dozens of negative people at work, in your community or inner circle? Do you think you’ll have joy? We can already picture your typical day… toxic.
In an article in Psychology Today, a long-term study was cited of more than 10,000 subjects for an average of 12.2 years, where researchers discovered that subjects in negative relationships were at greater risk for developing heart problems, including a fatal cardiac event. The warning is clear – stay away from toxic people!
Most life coaches and counsellors advise people to avoid negative relationships. If they are within your family, you obviously cannot cut ties with them no matter what. They are God-given relationships that must be maintained, however you can ask for God’s divine intervention to heal broken relationships.
We only need to get away from unhealthy relationships, when all efforts fail with our acquaintances, friends, business associates, business partners, bosses, colleagues, etc. and they do not uphold the same values as we do or do not value our true worth. If you don’t, they may snuff out the life in you.
The truth is we cannot have personal relationship with all the people that we know. We can only aim to maintain a congenial relationship with everybody else.
To be healthy and have a balanced life, find a group of people that understand you, are willing to listen, who are not obligated to pray for you but really have a genuine concern for your growth and success as an individual.
This article was written by Charlotte Ibanez