Unfaithfulness in relationships is devastating to innocent, trusting hearts. The guile of duplicity, betrayal and faithlessness is rife in society, but should be deeply grieved over within the Church community.
The nature of Christ is, that He is totally faithful, never-changing and constant in His love. We are wise to build our lives on this rock and firstly, to trust in Him alone.
When it comes to Christian relationships, the same should be true. Real followers of Jesus will display His incarnate nature. They will be happy to walk in the light. They will be genuine and sincere, knowing that the fear of the Lord is the beginning of all wisdom and that God sees everything we do, think and say.
We cannot be casual with integrity. We should be on the outside what we are on the inside. Jesus hates whitewash. He is truth, and we need to be transparent people if we say we love Him. The outer garment of religion, which knows how to say the right thing, but covers over the dirt inside, has got to be called out.
If we are to be in fellowship with one another, there cannot be room for a double narrative – one thing going on inside and another on the outside. That’s just play-acting. Lying has got to stop. Ephesians 4:25 says, “Stop lying to each other; tell the truth, for we are parts of each other and when we lie to each other, we are hurting ourselves.”
How many people are walking around utterly devastated by the wounds of unfaithfulness? So many families are being ripped apart because of disloyalty. We do not look like our Saviour when our actions show utter contempt for a covenant-keeping God.
I’m so done with our ‘outward image perfecting’ world. Everything’s got to look great on the outside, yet the inner character can be SO ugly. You might have just had your lips filled and plumped out, but do you speak truth? Your nail extensions might be super shiny, but have you just slept with someone else’s husband?
It is a cruel and wicked thing when the innocent are betrayed. This is so often done under the guise of love. Love is such a misused word. Without understanding its correct selfless definition, it gets bandied about by the unscrupulous. Intent on using people for their own gratification, they will spin a false story in order to get their self-centred needs met.
Once they’ve had their fill, they will move on to someone else. We have to say that this sort of behaviour is unacceptable when our whole focus as Christians should be Christ- centeredness. Proverbs 116:6 tells us that “The Lord watches over the innocent; I was brought low, and He delivered me.”
Also Proverbs 11:3 says, “The integrity of the upright guides them, but the unfaithful are destroyed by their duplicity.” I pray that if you have experienced the agony of betrayal and have been ravaged by unfaithfulness, you will know for certain, that Jesus will NEVER leave you nor forsake you.
He never lies. He is faithful, dependable and true. May we all desire to look like Him too.
Kerry is married to Chris Cole who is a trustee of GOD TV and together they founded Cross Rhythms Media Ministry. She is author of The Purple Veil, an art style book, and Exit Darcus. Through these books Kerry offers deep insight into the whole area of relationships.
The Purple Veil
The Purple Veil represents the allure of ungodly relationships and sexual sin. We have to move beyond this veil into the light if we truly want to be used of God.