Because I still believe it is worth waiting for “happily ever after”, as well as the smaller things, like homemade bread and fresh brewed coffee. Who wants half-baked bread and half-brewed coffee?
Because I still believe it’s empowering to be the only one standing waving your flag about something you believe in.
Because love is just SO much better waited on.
Because Christmas is NOT in July…
”Sleeping together” is an oxymoron type of expression. Right in the very expression, the careless misconception of the whole experience can be seen. Giving yourself away sexually should be represented by much more than the climb into a bed. I realize so much of this topic falls to opinion, personal conviction, and morals. Yet, I also think if it is NEVER discussed it makes for lack of knowledge and understanding. It can be as simple as not being aware that there is another choice to make.
Sex. When heard, the word itself elicits a visceral reaction. It either perks up your ears or you cringe. Some people are afraid of it, others don’t understand it, and even more think it is a free-for-all. It is meant to be the ultimate expression between two people who love each other. Sadly, so much of its value is lost in its distribution process. Here’s a little for you, a little for you, a lot for you…and so on.
What if just for a moment, you stop and consider sex as a GIFT?
Let’s take it from the angle of one of our favorite holidays – Christmas! Aside from the heart of what Christmas is really about (“Jesus IS the reason for the season”), what is the pull and the appeal of the holiday? If it isn’t so special, then why do people have countdowns of how many Fridays till Christmas? Why do we start thinking and planning, in utter anticipation of a day months away? We start saving our money for gifts for our loved ones. Christmas is NEVER about making a list for yourself – okay, it IS when you believe in Santa. However, for an adult – we make lists of what we will give to someone else. Why?
Gifts are a reflection of our love. What is more satisfying than the look of joy on a child’s face that just received the much-wished-for toy? Oh the sheer fun of the preparation and the shopping and the secrets and the fun of hiding that special gift till the BIG day. What if SEX could also be viewed from this perspective? What if your one true love was the ULTIMATE Christmas gift? Let’s remember that one Christmas where you peeked, or even unwrapped one of your gifts under the tree, or you found gifts stashed in your parent’s closet (Oh please – I am NOT the only one who did this). You were SO excited – YES! They got me what I wanted! Woohoo! Then your excitement was quickly downplayed by the fact you had to wrap it back up, put it back under the tree, and wait till Christmas morning. Sure, you’d still be excited, it would still be special, it would still be what you wanted, BUT the thrill of the wait is gone.
The anticipations and the mystery of sex is what it is all about! Someone waits to give you their most prized possession. IF you are truly looking for your one true love, let’s assume he or she is out there looking for YOU. Match made in Christmas heaven! It is so much more about love and less about lust, in the real deal. You can go to the dollar store for cheap trinkets any time of the year, but if you want to present a meaningful gift it has to come with a price. Too often sex is brought to just the surface level of what it actually is. Everyone has an opinion and is entitled to it. It, however, is NOT the worst idea, to scope out the landscape before you take a journey. Right? (Map it out so you don’t go down a dead end…) The “majority rules” does NOT mean the majority is right. Guess what? If one sheep jumps off a cliff, others WILL follow. That is a TRUE statement.
So when it comes to morals….does the majority rule in what is perceived as right or wrong?
When you say “morals”, THAT is another word that makes people cringe. It is basically just a code of ethics. Whether you look at sex in a positive light, a negative light, or in no light at all – it will always come down to what YOU think is okay or not. It is good to take your time and see what your options are. Do you HAVE to have sex on a first date? Should you? Should you open your Christmas gifts in July? Would you have been pleased if your parents had bought you gifts, threw them in your room in September and said – “Here, this is what you wanted. Wrap it up yourself.” (BAM! Killjoy!) Figure it out for yourself. What does sex mean/represent to you? If it is something you view as special, precious, and to be cherished – then treat it as such. If your one true love is special, precious, and to be cherished – treat him or her as such.
Wouldn’t it be amazing to feel the thrill of the wait? Some things are so much better when waited on. Think about that homemade bread again – who wants it half-baked? Who would rather have a half-brewed cup of coffee? (Not I, coffee addict that I am.) Let’s go to the movies but leave before the riveting ending! (THAT’S a great plan!) Oh, and the list could go on and on for the things that are SO much better if we would wait on them. The joy is in the preparation, the anticipation, and the expectation of the final unveiling. The top of the waiting list would be Christmas, only to be followed in a close second – by sex. Whatever you decide, just know there is ALWAYS a choice.
Just for an extra bonus here: there is NOTHING cooler than how you feel when you can NOT be moved to do what you really do NOT want to do. It feels like Leonardo DiCaprio in the movie, Titanic, at the helm of the ship with the wind blowing in his hair, “I’m the King of the WORLD!”