This is not a step-by-step guide for guaranteed healing, but I can promise you that you will feel challenged to change your mindset and pursue healing. This worked wonders for me and I hope and pray it does the same for you.
Insecurities…they can haunt you. They are the voice in your head telling you that you are worthless and that you have no value. They are somewhere in all of us… But they aren’t your identity. Your insecurity can be the trees blocking the sun in your life. But the thing about trees is that they can be cut down. Don’t think for one second that these thoughts are your identity. These are only a symptom that we can treat together. Let’s lay this twisted romance to rest. Declare it! The story of “Insecurity and Me” ends NOW.
Honestly, can you think of a time that you let your insecurities get the best of you? That time you didn’t ask him / her out on a date because you thought that the answer was automatically going to be “no” just because it was you that would be asking. That time that you were being mistreated at work and just took the verbal beating because you thought you deserved it. This is real life for a lot of people. People that have a hard time finding value in themselves as human beings. These people are often thinking they could never make an impact if they are a nobody with no voice. These are people like me, who have a hard time seeing God using us for His kingdom. This is living with insecurity.
This is reality for so many people
Living with low self-esteem and with heavy insecurities is quite common. At some point, you’ve dealt with it whether you know it or not. It can sneak up on you in your most vulnerable moments or even in your high moments. It comes on like a silent confidence killer that never seems to fail at ending your joy.
But is there a light at the end of the tunnel? Is there a way to slay this giant in our lives?
The answer is YES… And it’s not the easiest thing to do in the world, but it is possible.
Find your confidence
One of the greatest ways to slay your insecurities is to remind yourself how VALUABLE you are… honestly telling yourself that you are worth more than what others think of you! You were made in the image of God and He has a solid plan and purpose for your life.
This can be hard at first. It isn’t an overnight process. This is a mindset and a truth that you will literally have to teach yourself. Being you and loving yourself can be very hard for a lot of people. It can even seem unobtainable at times… but it is what you deserve. You deserve happiness and a winning mindset, just as everyone else does. To obtain that mindset and start slaying your giant of insecurity… it starts with your own thoughts in your own head. Start your journey to finding your value in God – today.
See what everyone else sees
110% of the time, whether you see it or not, people are looking up to you. A child, a co-worker, a parent, a sibling. You name it, they’ll confirm it. That means that you are so good at something, that they look to you for guidance or to master whatever that thing is. Let’s say that you are very compassionate or caring of your peers at work or school. When your peer struggles with showing compassion to others because his parents were never compassionate towards him… you become a mentor! Own it! Own what you are known for.
Most of the time, when you struggle with self-love or low confidence, you go out of your way to show love and reaffirm others and make them feel loved and appreciated. On the outside, we look like we have it all together. What I’m pointing out is that if we seem like life is all good and nothing is wrong, how can our friends and family walk through this with us? You can’t do it alone. You need someone to walk down this road with you and to hold you accountable, loving you through your journey. Don’t isolate yourself, nothing good can come from it. Walk through it with someone you love and trust. You will find healing.
Help others through it
If you don’t struggle with insecurity and seem to have endless amounts of courage and confidence, there is something that you can take from this… the urge to help those to find their confidence as well. I hope that you know how blessed you are and how many people can benefit from your help. Walk them through their journey to recovery. Help them by being there to listen. Challenge them to believe in themselves and be a voice to influence them. Coach them to their Superbowl!
Start with this: When you see insecurity affecting someone or see someone not sticking up for themselves, step in. If your boss is walking all over someone, step in and see if you can help calm the situation or make things right. The courage that this takes is valuable to see. I believe that the faith and courage inside of you are more contagious than you can see with your own eyes. Go be a world changer and walk through this life together.
End the toxic relationship
This is where we drop our baggage. Insecurity has haunted you long enough and it is time to drop it and leave it with no remorse. Is it hard? Yes. Is it a challenge? Yes. Is it a process? Yes. You have to continue to walk without it and realize that you aren’t alone. Be proactive, keep your mind busy and be FREE!