In a recent post to Twitter, Lisa Bevere offers her take on the question “What was it like when John (her husband) was wrestling with his addiction to pornography and masturbation?” Lisa isn’t the only wife who has lived through this situation. Her response to the question offers hope to women who are going through the same struggle.
By The Numbers
Statistic from a recent study published by Campus Crusade for Christ, Silent Epidemic: The Church’s Problem With Porn, reports that,
- 62% of teenagers (ages 13-17) have received a sexual image via their cell phones.
- 72% of Christian young adults (ages 18-24) actively seek out pornography on the internet.
- 3 out of 5 divorces cite the use of porn as a major factor.
- 57% of pastors in the United States struggle with pornography personally, and 68% of youth pastors
Pornography is not something new, we’re just hearing more about it in today’s world of technology and social media.
So whose’s problem is it?
Lisa admits that her husband’s addiction to pornography was a hard experience to live through. She even confesses that, “I didn’t actually handle it well”. Lisa explains how she took on his struggle and began blaming herself for not being enough for him.
Her honesty hits a peak when she shares the crux of the struggle admitting, “I made it about me”. In hindsight, she wishes she would have been there for John instead of buying into the lies that she wasn’t desirable, attractive or enough. Looking back, she can now see how his addiction wasn’t actually his problem – “it was our problem”.
To watch Lisa’s entire video click here.
Are you or your spouse struggling with an addiction to pornography?
Be encouraged! There is hope! Take Lisa’s testimony and wisdom and begin to attack the problem together, instead of agreeing with blame, shame, or self condemnation. Remember the promise the Lord has given us in Ecclesiastes 4:9-12, Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.
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