- Sow Peace.
- Get An Understanding.
- Be Slow To Speak.
- Pray Together – Division Brings About Discord.
- Break Up Your Fallow Ground.
- Allow Grace To Flourish.
- Forgive Quickly.
May He Fill Your House With Peace.
“He maketh peace in thy borders, and filleth thee with the finest of the wheat.” Psalms 147:14 KJV
Married Couples: Take some time to reflect on what type of environment are you creating within the walls of your home. When you allow God to lead your heart and actions, you’re establishing God’s order within your marriage and the borders of your home.
Husbands, as the head of the home, God has given you delegated Authority to lead your family as He instructs. When you follow God’s Word He will direct and orchestrate your home’s Destiny. As you follow His Word, Peace starts and is produced within the borders of your heart. Peace starts with you. Your private sacrifice and spiritual development serves as seed and a pattern for your family and generations to follow. Ask God for instruction on how to lead the family that He’s given you. When you follow His Word, He will give you wisdom on how to navigate your house during every season of life – even in strenuous times. Sow His Love and Peace in every season. God saw the waves of life before they formed. Every emotional, financial, physical, spiritual or even mental battle that you may face – God saw the storm before it approached your door. In His Word, God has given us the Authority to speak Peace into our family’s lives and to command the storms of life to cease. “And he arose, and rebuked the wind, and said unto the sea, Peace, be still. And the wind ceased, and there was a great calm.” Mark 4:39 KJV. When Christ is with you no storm can defeat you.
Get An Understanding.
“Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom: and with all thy getting get understanding.” Proverbs 4:7 KJV
Internal storms can be more tremulous than the external waves of life. Often times, the enemy will attempt to infiltrate the borders of your home through your words. When you release negative words, within the borders of your home, you grant the enemy access to the heart of your home and family. Your words have power. They can either strike a blow to the heart of your spouse or war against the enemy. You can choose to build your house or tear it down. Before a conversation escalates, before either of you throw verbal daggers at one another, saying something that you’ll both regret later, take some time to breathe and listen to each other in order to get an understanding. Before discussing sensitive and delicate matters, pray together and ask God for wisdom on how to handle the matter. Pray for unity, and ask God for a heart to understand the heart of your spouse. Ask God for His Grace to handle the delicate matter appropriately. Ask God to lead your words and every action. Listen to your spouse’s heart before spewing out words recklessly. Your words can bring forth life, understanding and healing in the conversation or they can become daggers that destroy your spouse’s trust. Handle your words and your spouse’s heart with care.
Slow To Speak.
“Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath:” James 1:19 KJV
Be swift to hear, slow to speak and slow to wrath. Yes – Your opinion matters, however when handling the heart of your spouse, allow God’s Word to trump your emotions and engage God before speaking. When handling the heart of your spouse, ask God to lead your words and thoughts. Sometimes sowing silence and understanding can heal the wound of a matter. Sometimes, your understanding ear can open your spouse’s heart. When you choose to respond in wisdom, instead of releasing reckless emotional outbursts, you’re surrendering your heart and the conversation to God, allowing Him to lead your heart, conversation and the actions of the house. Trust Him to mature your responses. God wants you to have a Fruitful, meaningful, and Purpose-Filled marriage. Engage God in your conversation. Engage Him before you speak and during the discussion. When you engage God, He’ll season your heart with Grace to navigate your spouse through the storm. God is with you both and He wants you to succeed.
“For where two or three are gathered together in my name, there am I in the midst of them.” Matthew 18:20 KJV
Pray as a family. Prayer is warfare. As you pray, together as a family, you’re building up your spiritual defense against the enemy. The only weapon that can defeat the enemy is the Word of God. When you pray – you are engaging God to step in and bind the hand of the enemy. It is your choice to either release the Word of God and life within the borders of your marriage or speak death, destruction and defeat. Your words have power. When you pray, you’re surrendering your flesh and emotions to God and submitting to His Authority in the situation. Allow God to lead your words. Pray Before Speaking. “Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof.” Proverbs 18:21 KJV
Break Up Your Fallow Ground.
“Sow to yourselves in righteousness, reap in mercy; break up your fallow ground: for it is time to seek the Lord, till he come and rain righteousness upon you.” Hosea 10:12 KJV
Break up your fallow ground. What area(s) in your heart are inactive? What areas in your marriage have you allowed to lie dormant? What dreams have you allowed to die? What plans have you allowed to sit idle? God wants to restore every part of your marriage. He wants your marriage and land to flourish. Pick up everything that you’ve allowed to sit still. Use the Word of God to break up every hardened place within the walls of your heart. Your marriage is important to God and He will Heal and Fill every broken place with His Power and Love if you give your heart and marriage to Him.
Let Grace Fill Your Heart and Communication.
“Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.” Ephesians 4:29 KJV
Let the Love of Christ flourish within the walls of your marriage. Allow God to lead your heart and words. Your spouse belongs to God handle their heart with care. When you sow Grace, within the walls of your marriage, you’re preparing the environment of your home for success. You’re laying the foundation to get an understanding. When you build a marital foundation that’s built upon sowing God’s Word and filling your words with Grace, God can turn the heart of the conversation. Allow your words to reflect The Heart of God. When you sow words of discord, they will sow seeds that will corrupt the conversation and plant seeds of bitterness within your marriage. Allow God to lead your words before speaking defeat into the heart of your marriage. God wants your marriage to thrive and flourish in every area – even in your communication. Your words are either seeds that nourish your home’s environment or they can become daggers that crack the trust of your spouse. Sowing grace, builds trust within the borders of your marriage. Decide to minister grace in every season and in every circumstance. Your marriage matters to God and your words steward the heart of your spouse. Speak grace. Minister in Love, Grace and allow God’s Love and Light shine through your words.
“Then came Peter to him, and said, Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? till seven times? Jesus saith unto him, I say not unto thee, Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven.” Matthew 18:21-22 KJV
Forgive. Forgive. Forgive. Quickly forgive your spouse. Let God heal your heart – Let Him lead you completely. Don’t allow your emotions to rule you. When you forgive and let go, you’re allowing God to wash your heart. Allow Him to permeate your heart with His Love. Let go of the hurt, offense and the trespass of the past. Allow Christ to Lord over your heart instead of becoming bitter. Let go of the past and allow God to direct your marriage footsteps. Forgive quickly.
“As far as the east is from the west, so far hath he removed our transgressions from us.” Psalms 103:12 KJV
“Father God, In the Name of Jesus, we thank You for our marriage. We thank You that You are Lord over this house and we submit to you. Thank You for your Power and Peace that fills this house. We will submit to Your Word and Direction within the borders of our marriage. Lord, wash our hearts and lead our hands. Guide our communication and engage in every conversation. We declare that we will speak and minister in Love, Grace, Peace and submit to You. We give our hearts and this marriage to You.
In Jesus Name. Amen.”