My family is going through a big transition: we are moving. We aren’t going to move far, in fact, we don’t even want to leave our beloved friends or school district. But, nevertheless, we are leaving behind the first home we have ever owned. And we are leaving the house that we brought two out of our three babies home to when they were born, but also the first home any of our kids remember. The truth is, we need more space for our wild, loud, and crazy boys, and we are ready to make a new house our home. But, it isn’t without a little opposition and battle for control from our children.
Humans Love Routine
Most people I know don’t love change, especially big life changes. Humans thrive on routine, knowing what to expect, and familiarity. Small children especially love routine. It makes them feel safe and they feel like they know what to expect in a world that doesn’t always make sense to them (or any of us really). So, when trying to gradually reveal to our kids that we are moving, it hasn’t always been well-received.
First of all, they didn’t even understand what the actual concept of moving meant and they had a ton of questions. “Will we bring our toys? Will the house already have toys? What about our TV? Will we go to the same school? How will we know if we have friends nearby? How long will it take? Is the house going to be bigger? What about our furniture?…” And on and on. Once I quelled all of their concerns about whether out nor they’d still get to watch their beloved Netflix cartoons, and keep all of their legos, you’d think we were good, right? Wrong. We started clearing out toys they didn’t play with anymore, clutter that was better at taking up space than it was useful, and we chipped away at our storage area in the basement. And each step brought more questions and concerns.
Control In A Time Of Change
The most traumatic part of the moving process for my kids so far (and our house isn’t even listed yet nor did we find a new house!!!) is watching me donate household items or put things on our curb for free pick up. We sold our patio furniture and my five-year-old stood on the set, protesting while the new owners were trying to load it into the u-haul. Then when I tried to give away a small outdoor coffee table to a friend, my kids hid it in the backyard so he couldn’t find it. I basically had to pry it out of their hands. It isn’t the particular items that they are having a hard time with. Trust me, my kids don’t look longingly at patio furniture on a daily basis. It’s the fact that this house and the contents in it are all they’ve ever known in terms of the security of home. This big change and transition are triggering a lot of fear and doubt of the unknown.
As I watch my kids white-knuckling old, rusty furniture I can’t help but laugh at how silly they’re being. I think of how we must look to God when we try so hard to control things in our lives instead of giving control to Him. Of course, He is a loving, kind, gracious God so He would never shame us or laugh in our faces about our control issues, but the Bible is pretty clear that He is in control and we are not.
God Is In Control. Period.
“Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they?” (Matthew 6:26) The Lord cares about all His creatures and provides even for the flowers, birds, and other small animals of the Earth. Of course, He is going to provide for us. All we have to do is trust. Our biggest obstacle is letting our little brains think that they control things better than God can. We are driven by fear of failure, or fear of man and judgment, or fear of WHATEVER, so we try to take the reigns and do things our way. But God is bigger. ”For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,’ declares the Lord. ‘As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.'” (Isaiah 55:8-9)
Let God Do His Job
When we try to think like God, and do like God, and control everything like God it sucks the joy out of life. And we put so much pressure on our lives to BE God. Let’s start relinquishing control, giving to others freely, taking the leap of faith (like selling your house with nowhere else to live yet), and trusting that God will certainly take care of His children. Just as He takes care of the grass in the field. He’s got this…
“And why are you worried about clothing? Observe how the lilies of the field grow; they do not toil nor do they spin, yet I say to you that not even Solomon in all his glory clothed himself like one of these. “But if God so clothes the grass of the field, which is alive today and tomorrow is thrown into the furnace, will He not much more clothe you? You of little faith! “Do not worry then, saying, ‘What will we eat?’ or ‘What will we drink?’ or ‘What will we wear for clothing?’ “For the Gentiles eagerly seek all these things; for your heavenly Father knows that you need all these things. “But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.
“So do not worry about tomorrow; for tomorrow will care for itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own. (Matthew 6:28-34)
(And if anyone wants to pray my family sells our house quickly and finds a new one just as quickly that would be great and much appreciated!!!)