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Security In Bondage?

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Security In Bondage?
Security In Bondage?

Back in history, all the way back 30 years or more (yikes) a dear Pastor friend of mine used to drop all kinds of profound pieces of wisdom in our lives. THIS is one of them.

“There is security in bondage.” ~ Pastor James Shaffer, Mt.Clemens Michigan

Five words that truly have spoke volumes of truth to my personal life. I am pretty sure when he said it I did not totally grasp the meaning. The best teacher is experience, seasoned with wise words.

 

Like a moth drawn to the flame, we are strangely attracted to what feels familiar. It may be harmful to us even, but if it is all we have known then there comes the secure feeling.  “Oh, I know this! I have been here before! It feels right; it feels familiar.” Actually, we probably never put those thoughts in concise words – we just do it. We adjust and adapt and lock ourselves into a bondage that feels secure to us.

 

Bondage basically means “slavery or oppression.” WHY would we EVER feel familiar with a situation like that? Why we would feel secure in the feeling of oppression? What if THAT is all you have known? It’s proven fact that some homeless people if given a house, would eventually go back to the street, because it felt safer. The new house was scary to them, a risk, the unknown, the unfamiliar.

 

I survived sexual abuse. It left my mind in a state of always feeling less than; I found I could not rise above the feeling that I had no value. Then from there I learned to work around it, making it a part of how I processed counsel or constructive criticism, even the words of Scripture, and love. It was like I was too afraid to actually SEE my own worth or to love myself or to let others help me. When I tried, I would retreat back into my little familiar refuge of self loathing. WHY? WHY would I choose to constantly allow negative, abusive memories to rule my mind set? It. Felt.Familiar. I was like that moth…drawn – even fatally attracted – to what could destroy me. This is crazy, right? And true.

 

I won’t lie – I have not totally mastered this whole concept; I am ever a work in progress trying to leave the past behind, decipher between what is truth and what is lies, and I am really trying to understand why I used to think in that certain self-loathing way so I don’t do it for the rest of my life. AND so I don’t pass it down through the generations below me.

 

Abuse, war, jail, homelessness, abandonment, and illness are just some of the many oppressive things people have faced. They can break you down, change you, and become places in your life where you get stuck. They legitimately could have been injustices, or consequences, or 100% ludicrousness. And if it happened long enough and affected you deep enough, it could be a place you are comfortable remaining. It really isn’t because you like it, enjoy it, or wouldn’t want to have something better or different. It has just become all you have known. It can feel safe without actually being safe at all. It is that ‘security in bondage’ sad phenomenon.

 

Breaking free of bondage is going to be a personal journey. Bondages people face are nothing to underestimate and will absolutely look different for everyone.  I wouldn’t presume to offer a cliche’ or glib answer or solution as a “one size fits all”. These are just general ways to fight against things that drag us down or hold us back.  It may require intense counseling, desperate praying, journaling through your feelings, creative outlets, relocating, leaving behind the toxic people (maybe a Block or Delete move), and bravely changing things in your life that have kept you in chains. Whatever keeps you bound, needs to be broken off of you. The best way to do this is to just start; one step at a time and one decision at a time – no matter how small.

 

I think the very first and most important thing is seeing if you ARE in bondage to something; oppressed by something or someone. It took me a lifetime really to see what held me down and kept me back. I had to face that the abuse had tainted and warped my self view. For me, writing has been my safe place and my refuge. As I write, I heal. Chains fall off as I face them, look at them, and allow them to fall off. And, share them with others. This is now my secure place.

Security in bondage? No thanks. I choose freedom over oppression.

 

Regardless of the outward circumstances formed against me, I can be FREE on the inside. I will continue to fight this battle, and win.

 

Galatians 5:1 says, It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery.”

 

It’s a whole, new world (smiling)!

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