Former NFL Player and author, Trent Shelton shares five powerful messages to all women in order to empower them in what they are created to be. Which is never to be used but rather to respected and valued.
Trent Simmons Shelton
Trent Simmons Shelton was born in 1984 and is the founder and president of the Christian-based non-profit organization, RehabTime.
In an Instagram video, Trent expresses his powerful message to women who think poorly of themselves. It is his heart for women to feel empowered to walk away from abusive situations. Here are the five things he wants all women to know!
1. Believe in patterns, not just apologies
Most of the time, when people make mistakes, saying sorry will be the next thing they do. However, what if that person apologizes time after time but never changes their behavior? This is why Trent points his viewers to pay attention to patterns, and not apologies.
“People can say the right things, people can sometimes do the right things now and then, but who a person is consistently, that’s who that person is,” he said.
According to Trent, “Patterns don’t lie”. “Do they simply talk about change or do they actually make a change? Do they only talk about respect, or do they actually respect you?” he added.
He stresses the importance of saying sorry, but when it becomes an everyday thing and nothing is changing, it’s time to question their sincerity of being sorry. Do they mean what they say? Changed behavior is the true indication of a changed person.
2. Don’t fall in love with potential
Trent emphasizes that it is never a guarantee that we can be able to change a person. We can hope for or even pray for them to change, but if they don’t want to, it won’t happen. Although there is always hope for a struggling relationship, we need to keep our eyes open.
“Who someone could be, who you want them to be, who they should be, does not mean they will ever become that person,” he said
“It doesn’t matter how much change you want for a person; it doesn’t matter how much good you see in a person if that person doesn’t want to become the person that you hope they become, it doesn’t matter,” he added.
3. Be aware of red flags
Red Flag means something isn’t right, and it often pops up in a relationship from time to time, but people usually tend to close their eyes and choose to ignore it.
“Believe red flags… “It’s telling you that danger is ahead, it’s telling you that something isn’t real. The more you ignore those red flags, the more of a position you put yourself in to get your heart destroyed,” he said.
4. Know your worth
Knowing your worth in life is essential. Trent explained that whether it’s in your job, your relationships, or friendships; it’s important to know your worth.
“You were given worth at birth. So when you truly realize how incredible you are, when you realize how much greatness you have inside of you. When you stop doing this, I can promise you that you will stop settling for less, and stop accepting less,” he said.
5. Don’t lower your standards
People are not created to settle for less, but rather we are created as a masterpiece for greater things of the glory of God.
According to Trent, the best kind of people that you need to surround yourself with are the ones who raise their standards to meet yours.
“They’ll raise their standards to meet you at yours,” he said.
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This article was compiled by Joyca Togonon