“Your ears will hear a word behind you, saying, ‘This is the way, walk in it,’ whether you turn to the right or to the left.” (Isaiah 30:21)
I recently read somewhere that we make approximately 5,000 decisions a day. Wow! I realize that I make a lot of decisions based on emotion or whether or not I am exhausted or not. We make so many decisions throughout the day. And while some may seem like insignificant decisions, others may huge life decisions.
I decided to choose peace and joy and purpose today over lethargy and complacency. I choose to meet with God today before meeting with anyone else, however, some days I fail in that pursuit as well and it shows in my decision making on those days.
Some of our everyday choices are completely random choices, while others are very important, however, they are all choice points. Those seemingly small or large choice points may seem like insignificant decisions, yet they will lead us in a one direction or another.
We make daily decisions to either react in anger, or respond in patience and compassion – in moments of conflict in our relationships. We choose to create drama and agitation with friends or co-workers, who may hurt our feelings, or seem selfish, or lack compassion at times.
We have the daily opportunity to choose words that will affirm and encourage or cause pain and insecurity in our children. There are so many situations in our daily walk where we are faced with frustration, disappointment, hurt feelings, anger, and pain.
As part of our personal growth plan, Pat and I made a decision three years ago, to take back our physical health. This was a major life change that has restored our energy, vigor, and vitality to run our race strong and to be there for our children and grandchildren for the long run.
It also ensured that we will enjoy life together well into our retirement years. One of the statements that one of our health mentors taught us was: Stop… Challenge… and Choose. We had to view our choices differently. How would our food choices affect our physical health and our overall health goals? We had to stop and evaluate and choose the path that would lead to our desired goals.
Believe it or not, this same principal can be applied to our spiritual walk – learning to view our reactions to crisis and conflict from a different perspective. We must STOP in the face of crisis/conflict … CHALLENGE our emotional response… and CHOOSE to respond from a place of our relationship with God.
We must not REACT but rather ACT UPON in order to have the best outcome for everyone involved. Asking ourselves key questions such as: How will my response/reaction affect my life and the life of those around me? How will all those involved walk away from this moment? Will relationships be severed or will they grow in maturity? Are my reactions creating a victim mentality and an attitude of constant offense or a lifestyle of gratitude and joy?
Sometimes we have to change our perspective and our perception of life.
There are times I have to choose to change how I interpret what’s happening around me. Because how we perceive our circumstances, can make or break us in any given situation. Our perspective shapes us and how we think and how we engage with the people around us every day.
Perspective creates OPPORTUNITIES for growth or it can hinder our progress and restrict us in life. Our perspective can cause us to walk in constant offense and bitterness, or jealousy, and lock us up in the comparison prison where we never reach the potential that God has for us.
There are days where I find myself making the following statements: I can’t…I will never make it to that goal…Why does that always happen to me?…Why don’t they listen to me? Can you see how that is reactive vs. proactive? Always finding the bad in every situation.
When I find myself in those days, I have to stop… challenge… choose to go into my prayer closet and find my place in the presence of my Savior to change my attitude to be that of…. I CAN… I WILL… It’s going to be fine… God’s got this!… Keep going… persevere… keep your eyes on the prize set before you…
I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me… I am more than a conqueror… With GOD NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE! Those are much more responsive and proactive attitudes…. choosing to see the best in a situation (God’s view) brings about a totally different view. The right perspective says failure is part of learning and life is hard sometimes, but with God, we can do hard stuff!
Stage of growth
God is calling us to change our perspective to see His faithfulness and His Power! To be aware of His able-ness not our weakness and limitations. A dear friend and fellow health coach, Terri Miller, said this to my husband, Pat, and I recently as we were discussing growth in our business. She said…”Many people are just wanting the STAGE of SUCCESS…While others choose the STAGE of GROWTH.”
WOW! How true is that?! So many times we just want the outcome to glorify us and showcase our accomplishments and giftings, but we really should be choosing to always be in a stage of growth mindset.
Look at Hebrews 5:12, “For though you should in fact be teachers by this time, you need someone to teach you the beginning elements of God’s utterances. You have gone back to needing milk, not solid food.”
I can just hear the Father saying on those days when I have a rotten attitude or when I’m feeling sorry for myself, whining and griping, “REALLY Karen!…This again? I thought we were past this already?”
For some of us, we are just waiting for someone to come along and put the spiritual bottle in our mouths to feed our insecurity and self-doubt and lack of self-worth. Isn’t it time we graduate from that mindset already?! I’m ready to put down the bottle and the pacifier and graduate to solid food that strengthens my mind, body and spirit! I don’t have time for pettiness anymore!
Did you know that the Bible actually speaks about the power of the mind and our thoughts?! I LOVE THESE SCRIPTURES!
Deuteronomy 30:19, “Today I have given you the choice between life and death, between blessings and curses. Now I call on Heaven and Earth to witness the choice you make. Oh, that you would choose life, so that you and your descendants might live.”
We NEED to understand that life, love, joy, and peace are CHOICES! We always give circumstances too much power and credit in our lives. It just seems too simple to believe that simply choosing love and joy is possible.
Look at Romans 12:12, “Do not copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.”
Changing the way we think, actually changes our perspective which changes the way we act! Paul’s words were not new! The theme of Jesus’ first sermon was, “Change your mind” in Matthew 4:17. Jesus always challenged people to change their mind and their viewpoint.
All through the Bible it shows us that if we do not change our mind, we just impose our own biases and mindsets and labels on the words we read. The first thing we have to change is our perception…And that begins with OURSELVES not EVERYONE ELSE. We need to change our perspective of who we are!
Ephesians tells us that we are God’s handiwork and that before the world was ever created he prepared us for great works. Seeing the truth of God’s perspective about yourself is not about our self-esteem, or arrogance, or a pat on the back, or even our happiness. It’s about making the right choices for those we are called to reach, rescue, and set free. It’s about stepping out in purpose and the destiny that God has called you to.
Our choice to change
So how do we choose to change our perspective in real life?
We can choose fear, insecurity, jealousy, bitterness and the lies of the enemy on a daily basis, or we can choose to believe that God is true to His word when He said, “Now to Him who by the power that is working within us is able to do far beyond all that we ask or think.” (Ephesians 3:20)
Here is your choice today … In the face of crisis and conflict…
- Choose to believe that you are loved by God – Romans 5:8, “God demonstrates his own love for us in this; While we were still sinners Christ died for us.”
- Choose to live in freedom
- Choose to believe God has prepared you to do great things
- Choose to believe you were created for purpose…on purpose
- Choose to believe that with God…You will overcome
Choosing means that you have control over thinking as a victim who is powerless or choose to be an overcomer, trusting that God’s word is TRUE!
God told us in 2 Timothy 1:7, that “He did not give us fear (panic) but POWER… LOVE… SOUND MIND!”
If God gave us POWER to change the atmosphere then we can change our perspective to God’s view point. When our perspective is toxic to our soul, then we have the power to accept them or dismantle them and see through God’s view point.
Without the weapons of POWER, LOVE, and a SOUND MIND that God gave us to conquer the thoughts of fear, we wouldn’t be able to follow through with this scripture, in the Message Bible phrased like this: 2 Corinthians 10:5-7, “We use our powerful God-tools for smashing warped philosophies, tearing down barriers erected against the truth of God, fitting every loose thought and emotion and impulse into the structure of a life shaped by Christ. Our tools are ready at hand for clearing the ground of every obstruction and building lives of obedience into maturity.” And then in 2 Corinthians 10:5, and “we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.”
God’s Word says that with the tools He gave us, we can actually capture and tear down specific thoughts in our mind, so I think it’s safe to say that we can conquer wrong thinking through Christ. But how is that even possible? IT’S ACTUALLY RIGHT IN PLAIN SIGHT IN THE BIBLE!
Psalm 46:10, “Be still and know that I am God.” The power of prayer has been proven over and over throughout history. Capturing your thoughts requires stillness … UH OH! Some of us just walked out of the room because that is nearly impossible with our busy hectic lifestyles. Most of us feel we have no time for prayer, but if we don’t have time for prayer then our thoughts, emotions, and feelings continue calling the shots in our lives.
2. Change Your Thinking
“Stop… Challenge… and Choose” is this:
Philippians 4:8, “Whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable – if anything is excellent and praiseworthy – think about such things.”
Every now and then, I run into someone who is different. They are always happy, always calm, always think the best in people, nothing phases them, they are almost impossible to offend. Their peace and joy are contagious. I walk away thinking…”Wow, I don’t know how they are that way, but I want to be that way.” Then I have to realize…Philippians 4:8 – THEY CHOSE LOVE! They chose to view life through God’s eyes and not their own. They chose God’s heart and fiercely rejected the negative lies of the enemy.
We can be the inspectors and quality controllers of our thoughts. When the wrong perceptions and perspectives come along the conveyor belt of our minds and thought factory…We must examine them…challenge where they came from and who they came from…if they don’t meet up with the standards of God’s Word…we can choose to remove them from our hearts/minds and replace them with the word of God and what God says about us and over us.
Look what Hebrews 4:12 tells us, “For the word of God is alive and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart.” More times than not, our thoughts and feelings are going to challenge the Word of God.
The Word of God is going to challenge your fleshly thoughts and the rough and stubborn areas of our life. But it will also give you strength to lean in to the real answers and to the truth! God’s Word will shift your wrong mindsets and misconceptions and replace them with FAITH! It will heal your heart and comfort you in the darkest places of your life. Proverbs 23:7 lays it out so clear, “As someone thinks within himself, so he is.” God’s Word does not offer empty promises, but real hope!
3. Stop Comparing
Can we please just stop comparing ourselves to other people and where other people are in life? 2 Corinthians 10:12 says, “We do not dare classify or compare ourselves with some who commend themselves. When they measure themselves by themselves and compare themselves with themselves, they are not wise.”
So many of us twist ourselves up in knots, never satisfied, trying to live up to someone else or be like someone else or something were not (I’ve been guilty at times). Trying to fill some endless list of qualities, and qualifications, and capabilities that we think will somehow fulfill us or give us the attention that we so desperately desire in our flesh. God doesn’t need another…..(Insert your name here)! HE NEEDS YOU! He made you on Purpose…With a purpose!
My challenge to you
Instead of asking God to change your situation, complaining about your life, to change other people … Maybe we should ask God to change our perspective and our perception. How about we Stop blaming, making excuses, looking for reasons to be offended, Challenge the thoughts that were dwelling on – measure them up against the Word of God and what God says about us and over us, and Choose to walk in Gods truth OVER the enemy’s lies.
Realize that so many times …The obstacle is the way! Stop worrying about the obstacle and start viewing it as a means to the promise. The way is THROUGH the SEA… THROUGH the PRISON…OVER the MOUNTAIN…THROUGH the FIERY FURNACE…THROUGH the LIONS DEN…and ON A CROSS!
How do you think God wants to change your perception/response today to life’s choices? Maybe you are dealing with fear, anxiety, anger, jealousy, bitterness, or inadequacy? Whatever you are facing…could it be that you have an opportunity to walk out of it with a TESTIMONY?! The Apostle Paul prayed that someone would be able to change their perception.
Look at Ephesians 1:18, “I pray that the perception of your mind may be enlightened so you may know what is the hope of His calling, what are the glorious riches of His inheritance among the saints.” Another version says that “I pray your hearts will be flooded with light.” Can you imagine if you allowed God to direct your emotions, choices and attitudes?
Can you imagine waking up and walking through a dark situation or season, but then all of a sudden…All the lights get turned on for you?! Psalm 119:105 says, “Thy word is a lamp unto my feet, and a light unto my path.” God walks with us in situations where it is hard to see clearly and illuminates the path by which we can be led to healing, wholeness, and freedom and joy.
I pray you ask the Holy Spirit for His guidance, and His counsel, and His direction before reacting. CHOOSE to FOLLOW the Holy Spirit as HE LEADS the way.
Dear Father, some days are challenging and my emotions get the best of me. Some days, my words or decisions come from a place of pain or frustration and insecurity. Today, I want to see through your eyes in order to change my perspective. Today, as I make all those 5000+ choices, I ask that you turn on the flood light for my mind to see clearly. Walk with me, speak life to me, and remind me of how my emotions and choices affect others. Help me to lead out of love and security in knowing who I am called to be. Help me not to compare myself to others and fully embrace all you have called me to be. Help me to follow the leading of Your Holy Spirit so that I can be a life giver and encourager to those you bring into my life. Help me to bring value through your Word in every situation. As I draw near to you, I know you will draw near to me. Thank you, Father, Amen.