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Sadie Robertson Huff Has A Message To Christians In Dating And Marriage Relationships

by Christel Berns December 13, 2022

Well-known Christian author and speaker Sadie Robertson Huff has a warning to Christians in dating relationships. And it’s a message that every believer should take seriously to honor God’s Word.

Dating And Relationships

In a “Whoa That’s Good Podcast” episode, Sadie Robertson Huff and her husband, Christian, shared their wisdom about dating and relationships. In the podcast, the “Duck Dynasty” star stressed the importance of not taking the Bible verses the out of context to justify dating when it is clearly intended for marriage.

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“I think sometimes we take these verses that are actually intended for marriage or intended for God’s love for us,” she explained. “And we put them in a dating relationship.”

Then Sadie confessed that she knew this very well because she used to do it too. And such misconception often leads to “dating relationships that we really shouldn’t be in.”

Discernment

Further, the author advised to “use discernment.” If they see their partner “doing something perpetually that is wrong,” that is a “red flag.” She then encouraged me to cut the relationship with that person.

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“I think that is when you go,” she added. “‘This person is showing me the side of his character that is not just a one-time mistake but actually a part of who he is and a sin he struggles with.’ That should be a red flag to you.”

Advice To Married Couple

Meanwhile, Sadie also gave advice to those who are married and in a covenant relationship. The actress highlighted not to keep record of wrongs with their spouse. Most especially if they have already asked for forgiveness.

She then referenced 1 Corinthians 13:5 in the Scripture, where it states that love “keeps no record of wrongs.”

“I do think that this verse is so important,” she explained. “And this has convicted me a lot in our relationship. It’s so easy to be like, ‘Well, you didn’t do this,’ or ‘you didn’t do that.’… Or ‘remember one year ago when you did this.’ You cannot do that. You cannot bring up all the past because one moment is going wrong.”

Sadie then directed the message toward the great love of God.

“What if God was always keeping a record of wrongs over us? And I think that’s the root of where that verse comes from,” she further added. “God is love. God keeps no records of wrongs. God’s forgiveness washes over us. When the blood of Jesus comes over us, our sins are forgiven, and God loves us as new and as pure and as lovely.”

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Supernatural Connections

by GOD TV October 9, 2022

written by GOD TV

Today, I have an encouraging testimony for you. It’s actually about my wife and myself and how we met. And oftentimes we can doubt that we hear the voice of God, but in John 10:4 it says, “When he puts forth all his own, he goes before them and the sheep follow him because they know his voice.” And a number of years ago before my wife and I met, I felt that the Lord was showing me that I was going to meet my wife in six months. And sure enough, I met her in six months, but I had no idea.

And that month went by and I was asking the Lord, “Lord, did I really meet the right person?” And the thought crossed my mind, “Well, maybe I met her, but I don’t know.” I was living in Western Canada at the time on Vancouver Island, and I took a train trip all the way across Canada to Mississauga, Ontario by Toronto. I met her again and I did like a triple take. “Oh, I remember you.” She was actually checking people in at a conference. And we started connecting during the conference having a great time, just spending time together. And then it clicked that not only had I met her before, but I’d met her in the six months that the Lord told me.

So I went back after that conference to Western Canada. And I was actually going out to do some evangelism on a Friday night. And my friend Kevin came up to me and he said, “Andrew, I wasn’t going to tell you this, but my girlfriend told me, I had to tell you.” And he said, “I had a dream that you met a girl in Toronto, Ontario, and that you got engaged her.” Well, it turned out at the same time the person who’s now my wife, Brittany, she had a friend also named Kevin in the United States, a different Kevin. And he had a dream and he emailed her and said, “I had a dream that you met a guy in Toronto, Canada, and you got married to him.”

And so I didn’t even have her phone number. I’d given it to her, but it got lost on the way back to North Carolina, where she lived. I managed to figure out what church she was part of and everything, and I managed to get ahold of her family, her dad and we connected. After we were dating for awhile, I felt like I just wanted to give her some flowers. And so I went on a website, I think it was flowers.com or something like that. And I looked at these arrangements of flowers and one of the arrangements, it looked good to me. I ended up sending it to her. And that very day she was actually praying in her room. She was crying. We’d already been dating for a while, and she was like, “God, I don’t know if I’m supposed to keep dating this guy. He’s in another country.” I was living in Canada, she was living in the United States, and this arrangement came to her door. And ever since she was a little girl, she’d asked the Lord that the right person would send her a bouquet of flowers, half a dozen pink, half a dozen red, long stem and a vase with a pink bow on them. And I sent these things to her, these flowers, and there were actually 13 flowers, not 12. A half a dozen were pink, and then there were seven that were red. And she looked at them, she was so excited. And then she counted them and a little bit disappointed thinking, “Oh no, it’s the wrong arrangement.” Well, in the card I wrote down that she was to give one of these flowers to her mom. And so it turned out to be six and six long stem in a vase with a pink bow. And it was an answer to her prayer.

You know, when I was getting those flowers for her, I did not even ask the Lord or think like, okay, I need to be really strategic with this. But when we’re seeking the Lord, we’re seeking His face, we’re asking for His help, and we’re trying to hear His voice, do you know that He will even honor you in your ignorance? He’ll even honor you in your mistakes, because you’re one of His sheep. You hear His voice and He honors your faith. So be encouraged today.

God, I pray that you would give clarity and peace to those who are trying to seek you. Those who are trying to follow you. Those who are trying to hear your voice. And I thank you that you have grace, even when we don’t hear you perfectly. In Jesus’ name. Amen.

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The List: Five Things I Look For In A Future Husband

by Emily Wheelock July 19, 2021

written by Emily Wheelock

Do I have unmeetable expectations? That’s a question I’ve had to ask myself recently. Between old movies from the ’80s and ’90s like Sixteen Candles and She’s All That, I might. But unlike the young Molly Ringwald, I’ve never had to worry about a teenage boy being “turned off” my “chastity” as that was her worry. TMI? Maybe. Mostly because I’ve never been a “boy magnet.” I went to prom without a date. Okay, my best friend was my date, but that doesn’t count when last minute she finds a date of her own or decides to be the date of another friend. We literally shared a prom date.

Let’s not even discuss Freddie Prinze Jr.’s role in what I thought high school would be. You know, the one where the jock takes the “unattractive” girl and gives her a make-over, and oh look, now she’s wanted by every guy in her school, only to, he, himself, fall in love with her, but not because she now embodies societal beauty. No, he fell in love with her insides. Not like that, you weirdo. This isn’t Texas Chainsaw Massacre. Her, on the inside. Her personality, teaching young boys and girls that it’s really the inside that counts. Spoiler alert?

Could these movies have caused me to have high expectations for how I would meet “the one”? I couldn’t really tell ya, but I can tell you that high school is not a musical, and it’s not exactly normal to dance down the hall while singing your favorite tunes–at least to teenagers and maybe some adults. I was a weird kid. We established this. But I will admit, contrary to what my friend, Katie, may say, Romeo and Juliet painted a picture for me of young love, true love, and its kiss. Careful with that one.

And maybe it’s possible that I had hoped to be walking down the street one day as my flyers for the next… whatever, promptly fly out of my hands and into the face of a good looking, nice eyed boy who’d make some silly joke about me “really getting the word out” and smile as he said he’d see me around while walking away. I blame Hallmark for that one. It seems like no matter where I look, my reason for having certain expectations when it comes to meeting my significant other stems from one thing…. Hollywood.

The List

And because of that, prompted by Clown Comma Katie, only my best friend, I made a list of things I look for in a guy so maybe “I’ll know when I meet him.” (question mark) I do recommend this. As I discussed with a girl from our youth group about this very topic the other night, I explained that it was a good idea to have a list of what you want in a future spouse. Something’s you can look for and pray for. And as I told my friend, Katie, when I fall for a guy, I want to fall for his heart, not his face. I mean, I want to be attracted to him, of course, but the heart tells us so much more than the face ever could. I want to know who he is as a person, what makes him tick.

My List

There are a few things on my list. Katie had asked me, after receiving my list because, well, she’s the best friend–the boys are vetted. What can I say?–for reasons why I wanted these things in a future spouse. I don’t have any, but maybe I will by the end of this. (insert foreshadowing here) I just want a good guy. And, while she asks me what my type is, I do have to say, I don’t have one. I just like men. There’s nothing more to say. Really, I don’t have a type. I thought I did when really I just like guys who are Christians. And that brings us to number one on the list.

+He has to be a Christian. And not the “I’m a Christian” but does nothing to better himself or strengthen his faith or to serve the Lord in any way. I like a guy who is open and involved in his walk with Christ. Who isn’t afraid to talk about and have a good theological discussion with complete strangers. A man of integrity. Someone who strives to please God.

But what is number 2? Thinking through the things that make a Man of God, I think a leader should be on every girl’s list.

+He needs to able to lead. Mostly because I am super indecisive and I need 40 opinions on what color my coffee table should be and because I can be a little…… dramatic. I’m a girl. That’s my excuse. Moving on. I have plans for us. From homeschooling to coffee table monopoly, our family needs someone who can lead us in the right direction spiritually and emotionally.

Number three, I’ll tell ya, is easy. Nice. That’s it.

+He has to be nice. Humble might be a better way to put it. Philippians 2:3-5 explains it well. A man who is not a selfish man or self-righteous, but someone who understands that all have sinned as Romans 3:23 tells us. A mind like Jesus, if you will, which, knowing humans, maybe a little far-fetched, but you get the point. But not just understanding of others and nice to others but someone who is nice to me. I’ve had a few relationships that weren’t great. We’ll leave it at that, and when I told my friend, Katie, about how I want a guy who is nice to me and understanding of me, I knew this was a must for the list because it wasn’t something I’ve really ever had. Sure, they called me pretty but they weren’t really nice. That’s a time I’m just trying to forget, honestly.

This brings us to number four.

+Someone who loves his family(and mine). And I’m not talking just me and our kids. I’m talking phone calls to mama and Sunday family dinners. Aside from me wanting to be absolute BEST FRIENDS with my in-laws, like Friday night ’80s movies and pizza parties, I want a guy who is family-oriented. These are the people that raised him and the people that raised me. They’re important.

Now the last one is actually four in one, because I really feel like they go together.

+Someone who honors me, prays with me and for me, protects me, and cares about my walk with Christ. I’ll be honest, I didn’t grow up praying before every meal, but I do think it while my fork is in my mouth unless it’s Chick-Fil-A. My spicey deluxe, Arnold Palmer, waffle fries, and honey mustard, yes, even the honey mustard, are already prayed over, as we all know. I guarantee some of the guys I am interested in didn’t watch The Ring when they were eight. Man, I hate that movie…. so much! I was probably raised a little differently, and a guy who respects that and is willing to work with me on some things I may struggle with is most likely the Holy Grail, and we need to defend and protect him at all costs. Bring back the Knights Templer. That thing is one of the most sought-after relics from ancient times. You do know that, right?

ALL Jokes Aside (But Not Really)

We’re over 1,000 words into this, but I feel like there is so much more to say. Lists like this, though, are so important when looking for a future spouse, and when waiting for your Boaz, or your Ruth if you’re a guy. I mean, you don’t want to end up with any of his relatives, right? I’ve done that already. Wouldn’t recommend it.

From Cinderella and Prince Charming to Anna and Christof, we’re all looking for our happy ending, our “the one.” I may not be able to confirm that a first kiss gives you a “pop” as seen in The Princess Diaries, mostly because, well, I’ve never been kissed. But I can confirm that, contrary to these Hollywood movies, it takes longer than an hour and forty-five minutes to find your “the one.” Take your time. There is no rush. Unless you want to have kids by the time you’re dead, then, by all means, rush away. Haha… I’m kidding… or am I? (smolders off into non-existent camera)

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July 19, 2021 0 comment

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Ex-Porn Star Urges Singles To Live In Purity

by Rhoda Gayle February 18, 2021

written by Rhoda Gayle

This ex-porn star, now a Christian minister, is urging single men and women to live in purity and date in God’s way.

Ex-Porn Star

Brittni De La Mora has been in the porn industry for seven years. She never thought that one day, she’d break free from the bondage of that industry by finding God. In February 2016, she married Pastor Richard De La Mora, together, they now pastor the XXX Church.

“When I first met her, I didn’t even know she was in the porn industry,” said Richard. “I found out when she was sharing her testimony. But even then, her being in the industry, I never really looked at her as a product of her past. I looked at her as a product of God’s grace. What God has done in her life has just been incredible.”

Brittni De La Mora

The former porn star now ministers to people about the dangers of pornography. In an interview with CBN, the couple encourages singles to live a life of purity.

“Purity is not (just) ‘no sex before marriage’,” Richard said. “Purity is a lifestyle where we have a pure heart, a pure mind, and we have a pure approach in all things that we do.”

“With God all things are possible”

Brittni then emphasized that it was and will never be easy, but with God, all things are possible.

“It’s hard and it’s not easy,” she explained. “But with God all things are possible. And so, what you need to do if you want to walk in purity – if this is the desire of your heart – you want to honor God with your body. You need accountability and you need to just set clear basic boundaries.”

From being a slave of impurity and lust, the 33-year-old ex-porn star has been purified by Jesus Christ. She is also now an instrument for others to be freed from darkness.

February 18, 2021 0 comment

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This Podcast Will Change Your Life

by Sarah Crockett September 12, 2019

written by Sarah Crockett

“Life isn’t perfect and neither are we. Nope! But we know how to face our fears, have fun, and talk about all the messiest things of life.” – Justin and Abi Stumvoll

The Connected Life podcast has changed my life…and I’m pretty sure I’m not the only one. I’m not writing this article to promote their podcast, although I love it. I’m writing this article to connect you to a source healing, freedom, wholeness, and breakthrough. God is using these two world changers to do just that – change the world – one messy conversation at a time!

The Angel of Breakthrough

I was first introduced to Justin and Abi when I found a teaching series by Abi called Redefined By Love. I remember listening to her message as I was driving south on I-95 somewhere in the middle of Georgia. At one point during the message, Abi invited Justin up on the stage to share. He began to share a testimony about how the Angel of Breakthrough had been showing up to some of his consulting sessions. The moment he mentioned the Angel of Breakthrough I could sense something shifting in the atmosphere.

As I leaned into Holy Spirit I suddenly became aware that the Angel of Breakthrough was siting in my passenger seat! I couldn’t see anything with my natural eye, but I could sense its presence. I could also “see” in my spirit, or mind’s eye, a vague outline of a figure. Before I knew it the Holy Spirit began to unpack the purpose of the angel’s visit and revealed several keys for breakthrough. It was one of those moments that marks you!

This is just one example of the breakthrough that Justin and Abi carry in their messages. It’s life changing!

Finding hope in the messy parts of life

In December 2018, Justin and Abi released their first episode of The Connected Life and I’ve been listening ever since. Why? …because of the promise in Revelation 12:11, “they overcame him by the blood of the Lamb and by the word of their testimony.” The conversations they start and the stories they share are their testimonies and it’s bringing breakthrough into so man people’s lives.

As of today, there are thirty-six episodes available and they weren’t kidding…they talk about the scariest, messiest, mot shameful topics of life! Episodes include,

Learning, Surrender, and Trust as a Lifestyle
The Battle with Our Bodies: Winning the War with Weight
Facing Our Greatest Fears: Married Life Year One
Redefining Success: Married Life Year One
Foundations of a Great Sex Life!
Shattering Shame and Creating Connection in the Bedroom
Abi and Justin’s Explosion
A New Approach to Parenting
The Power of Adding Fun to Your Life
6 Keys to Winning a Woman’s Heart
Learning to Have Realistic Expectations of Yourself
Sex, Sex, and More Sex: Creating the Life You Love
Finding Connection Through Clashing Cultures
Ending the Gender Battle
6 Keys to Successful Dating

Life changing revelation

Each time I’ve listen to The Connected Life I come away with things to process with God. The way Justin and Abi talk about some of the hardest things of life make them seem…well, not so hard. Episode 27, Redefining Dating, definitely changed my life. I grew up in the I-kissed-dating-goodbye generation where dating was high stakes and I need to know if he was “the one” in the first five minutes of the date. Do I have the desire to be married? Heck YES! Have I have the best perspective on how to approach dating? Heck NO!

In this particular episode Abi and Justin interview their friend Ruth about her five year dating hiatus and breaking free from shame dating. At one point, someone made the statement, “Dating doesn’t have to be high stakes”. This statement was life changing for me. Think about it…a date isn’t the marriage proposal some of us have made it out to be. A date is two adults spending time getting to know one another for the purpose of seeing if they want to keep getting to know one another. That’s it! How life changing!

Guess what?

Since this revelation, I was asked on a date by a man I would not have previously considered. It was a great experience. We went on one date, the conversation was good, and it went really well. Guess what? I never heard from him again….and I’m TOTALLY ok! The lies, shame, and fear that Justin and Abi exposed that day set me FREE.

Go listen to their testimonies….I mean podcast….t just might change your life too!!!

September 12, 2019 0 comment

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Learning Proper Communication With God Saved My Relationship

by Faith Khosa August 13, 2019

written by Faith Khosa

Christianity entrenched in me the belief that communication with God is of paramount importance. And in retrospect, a lack of communication with God for certain longer periods had me taking some carnal steps in life. Steps that I know I would not have taken had my communication with God been on a par with expectations. Without having to sound clichéd, every relationship is strengthened with communication. Sincerely, I encourage relentless communication in our pre-marital and marital relationships. Not just communication but open communication.

One of our mishaps is in thinking that our partners know exactly how we feel at all times and that they fully know how to treat us. But I just want to remind us that knowledge is progressive and that there really is no end to the journey of learning. In that same vein, we must make room for the reality that our partners may not know everything at once. And that they are not immune to making mistakes. Instead of assuming that our partners know that the words they uttered or that what they did does not sit well with us, rather sit them down and openly talk to them about it, in a peaceful manner. Open communication is a necessary tool in relationships and it allows misunderstandings to be rectified much more quickly and it sure does bring the point about it.

Communication is Key

We are doing away with the habit of hopping from relationship to another and we are aiming to curtail separation and heart-breaks. This without a doubt needs us to understand and embrace fundamentals such as open communication in our relationships. Open communication is not arguing. If you want to be heard, then purport to communicate to your partner in a well thought out way without having to stir up unnecessary disputes or to arouse anger. Also, your motive for openly communicating to your partner should by no means be a way to make them feel bad. The resolve should plainly be to fix issues and to improve your union.

So go on ahead, be specific in openness and honesty, let your partner know how you feel about certain things and be open-minded to also hear their views. Encourage them to also be straight up with you and be careful not to take offense. Remember, the intentions are not to make the other person feel bad but to improve your union and to increase its splendor. Your relationship can thrive and be what you want it to be. You have that power within you to make it thrive. Instead of getting worked up over challenges in your relationships and determining to let go and to move on. Work on it and specifically work on the communication factor. It is possible to boast of a peaceful and successful relationship, it all starts with a desire and then corresponding actions!

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Marriage Communication 101

by Vance K Jackson August 12, 2019

written by Vance K Jackson

Why is marriage communication so challenging at times and what can we do about it?

“Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.” (Ephesians 4:29)

Therapy Lessons: Marriage is a ministry

Marriage is a gift that God has given to you both.
Marriage is not bondage, nor is your wife a ball and chain.
Marriage is a covenant established by God Himself.
It’s not a place of imprisonment; it’s a place where the Peace of God can reign and flourish.
Marriage is a fulfillment of God’s promise and accelerant of Destiny.

Biblical Therapy for Marriage Communication

Satan attempts to steal, kill and destroy the peace in your Marriage through corrupt communication

The enemy, satan attempts to steal, kill and destroy the peace in your Marriage through corrupt communication. Your words are a ministry. “A man hath joy by the answer of his mouth: and a word spoken in due season, how good is it!” (Proverbs 15:23). When handling your spouse your words can bring forth life or death. Every word spoken against your house pulls down the walls of security in your marriage. The poison spoken through venomous words taints the faith-filled environment of your home and grants an opportunity for the enemy to have his way.

Your spouse is not the enemy. When you choose to emotionally attack your spouse, to “defend” yourself you’re actually self-destructing. “But he, knowing their thoughts, said unto them, Every kingdom divided against itself is brought to desolation; a house divided against a house falleth.” (Luke 11:17). The home, the starting point and a portion of your kingdom, cannot stand when you carelessly tear down your spouse. Think of it this way, with every careless and negative word that you release over your spouse you pull down a brick of your home. “It is the spirit that quickeneth; the flesh profiteth nothing: the words that I speak unto you, they are spirit, and they are life.” (John 6:63).

Let’s even take it one step further, before your words are spoken, what’s rooted in the ground of your heart? “But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.” (Matthew 5:28) Examine the ground of your heart and the fruit or thorns it bears. Decide to sow grace and reap peace in your home and in your spouse’s heart. In God’s Covenant of marriage, He promises that He’s actively with you both. God does not take sides. He wants you to engage Him. You say that you have Faith in a Godly marriage but your communication is harsh and is corrupt toward your spouse. Faith without works is dead. Intentionally decide to work on the ground of your heart to cut down the thorns that tear down your marriage. Guard your words wisely. He that hath no rule over his own spirit is like a city that is broken down, and without walls. (Proverbs 25:28)

Tips to Handling Your Spouse with Care:

1. Systematic Prayer

How’s your prayer life? How often do you pray? Do you complain more than you pray? Often times, our prayer life, or lack thereof, is a direct reflection of your relationship with God and man. Decide to be intentional and diligent in spending quality time with God. Communicate with Him. Be intentional and set aside times to pray. Draw closer to Him, He desires to hear from you.

2. Pray With Your Spouse

Praying through the storms of life is important for the strength and the fertility of your marriage. Praying before a storm prepares your house on how to skillfully navigate the waves with God. You can start small by praying as a family together in the morning before work, before eating meals or even before you go to bed. You can even engage God through the Holy Spirit throughout the day, by praying quietly in your heavenly language.

READ ALSO: 3 Keys to a Prayerful Marriage

“Can two walk together, except they be agreed?” (Amos 3:3)

3. Spontaneous Prayer

Throughout the day in addition to praying for your spouse in private, call up your spouse and pray together on the phone. Take turns selflessly praying for one another. God wants you both to succeed. He is with you. God is for you. Trust God.

August 12, 2019 0 comment

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Save Me From Those Time-Wasting Dating Apps ???? They’ll Drive You Crazy!

by GOD TV July 7, 2019

written by GOD TV

There’s nothing wrong with using dating apps if you’re single and looking for a life partner, but they can be dangerous especially if you’re prone to over using your smartphone! App dating can become so addictive that you sit staring into a small screen for hours at a time, and before you know it you can hardly think straight… So what’s the solution?

5 things to remember that will help you manage your online dating more effectively.

1. Just because he/she is near doesn’t mean they’re within reach

The invention of geo-social networking applications may give you the ability to know who’s close by but that doesn’t mean they will want to take up the opportunity to meet you. Even so, because these apps show your location and the people around you, it can become an addiction to check out who’s on the grid, especially when you visit a new place. It’s almost an enticement as the thought comes into your head, “What am I missing out on?”

You have to come to the place in your life when you are content and don’t feel you are missing out! Many users have said they can’t help but check out the profiles of who’s supposedly available in their vicinity and wait for new faces to come online from close by. This can be frustrating and yet you feel powerless to stop. Believe me, there are better ways of spending one’s time!

2. Just because they look attractive doesn’t mean they are

It seems that an ongoing complaint of dating app users is that so many people use fake profiles / photographs. “Now why on earth would people do that?” you may ask… That’s not going to help them in the long run and yet this frequently happens. One needs to be careful of people impersonating others or misrepresenting who they are. Age seems to be a big thing here with users complaining of some people being a little elastic when it comes to their true age!

Okay so a lady may be entitled to keep a secret or two about her age, but a gentleman?! You need to remember that everything that happens online has a certain measure of make-believe. Even if it’s just people presenting themselves in the best way possible. To really connect with a person you need to interact on a deeper level.

3. They can build you up but also break you down

Waiting for that tap, message or match can be exciting, even thrilling, however, you can just as easily feel rejected when you don’t get the response you’d like. When it boils down to a simple swipe left or right, in a matter of seconds, can people really make an informed decision? No, they can’t so you have to take these immediate responses with a pinch of salt!

It’s wonderful to be complimented, but it’s really tough when you’re ignored. You start wondering if there’s something wrong with you and whether or not you are good enough? However, one cannot take these things personally, you just have to take it all in your stride. Remember you are good enough. Well God says you are and what He says counts more than anything else.

4. They can be the biggest time wasters

No matter how much time you spend coming up with the best possible profile, trying to take the perfect selfie, it may take time for the right match to come along requiring infinite patience. It’s the same in real life. Good things come to those who wait! Endless chatting to find the right person can leave you drained. And this has an adverse effect on the real people around you, your family, friends, and work colleagues who take second place over your online chats.

It’s probably best to curtail your ‘dating time’ to a limited period a day or whatever limit works realistically for you. Then, rather spend most of your time engaging with real people. People have been known to meet and fall in love outside of their smartphones and the Internet! It still happens and don’t underestimate God’s Hand in matchmaking if you leave it up to Him!

5. Many are not interested in a long term relationship

Unfortunately, many online dating apps are just a front for NSA (no strings attached) liaisons or “hookups”. Though there are of course genuine people out there and people can meet their life partners online, that is the exception rather than the rule.

Don’t waste your time chatting to people who are already in a relationship and just looking for something on the side. You don’t want to get mixed up in an ungodly liaison. If you really want to meet “the one”, it’s worth the wait! We should never allow dating apps to rule us or our romantic life, we must rather rule them. The Bible says we have been given a spirit of love and of power and of self-control. Let’s use it!

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This post was compiled by James Sinclair

July 7, 2019 0 comment

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5 Dating Tips All Christian Singles Should Know

by Rhoda Gayle May 27, 2019

written by Rhoda Gayle

Here are five dating tips for surviving the dating process as shared by Pastor Steven Furtick of Elevation Church.

Dating is a crucial stage of one’s life that should be taken seriously especially if you are a believer. If done outside God’s guidance it can lead to a destructive path and heartache.

However, when dating is done in a Godly way, it can be a joyful experience on the way to a successful marriage. Dating was designed by God to help us find the right life partner. It is how you get to know a potential spouse in a deeper way.

But how can you be prepared for dating? Here are five helpful things to bear in mind.

1. Another person can’t complete you

No one else can complete you, only God can. If you enter into a relationship incomplete, the chances are you are going to make a mess of things. Only enter into a relationship once you have allowed God to make you whole.

2. Dating is dangerous if you aren’t ready for it

Dating is risky because you can become connected to someone emotionally, spiritually and physically and God has set clear boundaries not to be joined together until marriage. Unless you are ready for dating, there’s a huge possibility that you may go beyond God’s boundaries too soon.

3. Look for the right qualities in a person

Date someone you would like to marry. Know the right qualities you want to find in a future partner before entering into a relationship with them. And discover the qualities God wants both of you to have in order to work well in a relationship according to His glory.

4. Ask yourself, is the relationship meeting wrong needs?

If you are going to date someone just because you want to be secure or just because you are looking for intimacy, you should have second thoughts. Dating is not about meeting your personal needs only. Know what God wants to fulfill in your relationship and focus on that.

5. You have to set boundaries

You need to set boundaries for yourself personally as well as within your relationship.

Before you get into a dating relationship, know your value and worth in God. Instead of finding the “right person,” mold yourself to become the right person for your future partner.

Dating is a blessing from God when done rightly and in the context of God’s Word. Moreover, when you enter into a relationship, “seek first the Kingdom of God” and pray earnestly about it. God is the author of your story and that includes your love story. Let God do His work in your life!

5 Dating Tips | Pastor Steven Furtick

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May 27, 2019 1 comment

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Can A Christian Date A Non-Believer?

by GOD TV February 2, 2019

written by GOD TV

It’s a big topic of discussion among Christian circles: Can a Christian date a non-believer? There’s a lot of perspectives but right now, let’s look at scripture.

In biblical times, dating didn’t really exist and the Bible doesn’t mention the word. But the Bible has plenty to say about relationships, love, and lifestyle.

Before we can answer the big question, there are 3 questions that we should answer first.

What is dating for?

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Dating is not about getting to know the other person or figuring out if there’s a romantic connection between you two. All that stuff should happen before the dating stage. That explains why being friends first is essential.

Whether you like it or not, when you enter into a dating relationship, you are opening your heart to someone else with the possibility of getting hurt.

“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” – Proverbs 4: 23

So if you’re going to be that vulnerable with someone as you enter into a relationship with them, wouldn’t you want it to be with someone you already know and trusts?

I believe the dating relationship should be entered into with the intent of marriage. It may be an old fashioned way of dating but it is a wise way to consider.

Are we compatible?

There are four areas of compatibility with any relationship that we should consider:

Physical compatibility

This speaks about being attracted to the person. This may seem shallow but let’s not downplay the importance of this area.

Emotional compatibility

Do you connect on an emotional level?

Communication compatibility

Can you engage in meaningful, truthful, vulnerable conversation with them about the things that matter most?

Spiritual compatibility

This is the most important area. As Christians, we are called to put God first in everything we do.

“In all your ways, submit to Him, and He will make your paths straight.” –Proverbs 3: 6

Do they put God first? How can two people stay on the same path if they’re not heading in the same direction?

“Do not be yoked together with unbelievers.” – 2 Corinthians 6: 14

When we are unequally yoked in our relationship, we will not be able to do the work that God has called us to do.

Is God # 1?

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Romantic relationships are one the easiest places for sin to sneak into our lives. It is much easier to keep holiness at the center of a relationship if the other person shares that desire with you.

Can A Christian Date A Non-Believer?

With all those being said, I believe the answer is NO. Dating a non-believer is not a good idea. Any relationships require deeper wisdom. Seek the Lord’s wisdom before entering into a relationship.

Dating Non-Believers

Reference: YouTube | JonJorgenson

Rhoda Gayle wrote this article.

February 2, 2019 1 comment

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