Whenever my kids get home from school (or any other place where they’ve spent a significant time away from me), they have a sort of “emotional comedown”. I am told that this is good, that they know how to self-regulate their emotions when they are under another adult’s care, and know it is not socially acceptable to throw fits and tantrums anywhere they want (to be clear tantrums are not “acceptable” at home but feeling emotions is definitely encouraged and empathized with). I am told it also means my kids know they are safe at home and they know they are loved unconditionally. They don’t lash out at school and cry over things irrationally because they aren’t certain their teacher will still love them after one of those episodes. To be fair, Mommy still loves them but doesn’t always like them at that moment. But the truth is, they have to bottle up their real, raw emotions at school, but once they are safe at home…look out. The flood gates open.
The Emotional Comedown
The days are long and the years are short. And even though I always brace for impact after I pick my kids up from school I have to remind myself that their emotional comedown is good and healthy. And usually, at the end of the day, after the rollercoaster of yelling, laughing, screaming, crying, and blaming, I can always count on those sweet snuggles at bedtime. There is always a request to “climb in bed with me mommy, and snuggle and kiss me.” You see, as much as my kids push me away and act angry with me, I know they still need me. They aren’t really upset with me, but rather exhausted from life’s circumstances.
God Is Your Safe Haven
It really makes me reflect on our relationship with God and how it should look pretty similar to this. God should be the one we are safest and the rawest with. He should be the one we don’t have to hold it together for. And the one where we let it all hang out. And present our truest, most honest selves to. Do you find yourself crying out to God when you are frustrated, desperate, and overwhelmed? And do you find yourself sobbing in a puddle on your knees in front of God? When life brings you deep sadness? Or when you are smacked with a moment of gratitude and joy that pastes an eternal smile on your face? Do you bubble over thanking God for His blessings?
Bring God Your Truest Self
If you answered yes, then keep it up. Keep bringing your uncensored self into His presence. He wants to bless you for your honesty and yearning to be real and close to Him. However, if the answer is “no”, give it a try. Stop pouring yourself out to your spouse, friends, or parents. And try having an honest, open, and emotional conversation with God. He is already right there with you, and He wants to be your safe haven, your place of comfort, and to receive your wildest emotions. After all, He is the one that made you with that special gift.
“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted
and saves those who are crushed in spirit.”
We can learn a lot from kids, it is no secret that Jesus thought of them as sacred. I challenge you to not only have faith like a child. But to trust your Father with all of you, just as a child does. You won’t regret it.
“People were bringing little children to Jesus for him to place his hands on them, but the disciples rebuked them. When Jesus saw this, he was indignant. He said to them, “Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of God belongs to such as these. Truly I tell you, anyone who will not receive the kingdom of God as a little child will never enter it.” And he took the children in his arms, placed his hands on them, and blessed them.”