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You know, I want to see men leading the way Christ led. I think that one of the key places that we can find this is in our families. And even if you’re not married, even if you’re single, this still applies to you, because you’re still someone of influence into a family. And men are actually called the lead their families. You know, there’s this idea that it’s an equal partnership in the family, which there is truth to that. But the reality is that men were designed to lead the home and lead their families. And you know, there’s a verse that gets so manipulated in Ephesians and it’s “wives submit to your husbands,” which it should mean something beautiful. It should mean something significant, but really it’s when it’s followed up by “husbands, love your wife as Christ loved the church,” like He did. He sacrificed for them. Everything He did was for their benefit. It was a sacrifice. It wasn’t a controlling, misaligned way of using leadership. It was this: I love you so much that I’m serving you in an aspect of leadership.

True leadership serves, it doesn’t demand. And if we look at the way society has changed and dictated the way that our family structures are set up, men aren’t leading the families the way they should. Men aren’t leading their wives and their kids the way they should. They’re showing up sometimes. And they’re trying to just do what they can. And the reality is that men who abuse the position of leadership and they use it as a form of control or power, they get stuck in their insecurities and they actually don’t model for their families what Christ has modeled for us. But the truth is I know that each one of us has the capacity, the capability, and the driving nature that God has put inside of us to lead the way He designed us. To love the way He loved, to serve the way He served. To be an example of what a true father, a true husband can be.

So men, I just want to challenge you. I want to exhort you to step into the fullness of who you are: the beautiful, powerful, strong servant leaders in your families that you are. So Father, I just thank you for each one of the men listening to this. God, I thank you that we have been designed in your image that we can love the way you love. We can lead the way you lead, and that our wives are fulfilled by our leadership. They’re not controlled. They’re fulfilled by our leadership. They’re exalted as a crown. And God, I pray that our children would actually see what true loving families look like. And they have an example that they can carry on from generation to generation. So I just bless you with that in Jesus’ Name. Amen.

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