“Why not go out on a limb, that’s where all the fruit is…” I have heard it said that “fear not” is in the Bible more than 365 times. Perhaps to remind us each and every day to change our focus from the thoughts that grapple us with fear and change our focus to God Himself. Although this story below was one of the scariest times in my life, I still pull on this experience for facing my fears I have currently, and with a virus that is creating uncertainty in our world, this is a concept that is unchanging.
Facing Your Fears
It was a week before I was to tape a segment for a national television show. Yup, me! Someone who is terrified to speak in front of people. I was the person in high school who didn’t show up for an entire week to avoid giving an oral speech. Ever since then, I really try to confront my fears. Twice I joined a group where you practice giving speeches in front of your peers. Both times I quit the group when it was my time to deliver.
So back up, what am I doing going on national TV? The opportunity presented itself and we all know in life most opportunities are passing and will never come around again. I was asked to appear on Doug Kaufmann’s show “Know the Cause” (which can be found on God TV) and discuss my former health issues and talk about my website and book Eat, Pray, Get Well. Easy enough you’d think, nobody knows the topic of ourselves better than we do, but I was still petrified. I had mastered the skill of avoiding situations much less scary than this, but this time there was no running and hiding.
There was no doubt I was thrilled and honored at the idea of being on this show. I not only attribute this show to being a major part of my healing but my website EPGW was also inspired by this show! Still, I felt as if I was being sent to the guillotine. I was overcome with panic and fear. My imagination was running wild with everything that could possibly go wrong. I cried out to God continually about my growing fears.
I ultimately decided I would not release the news of the appearance until after it was over (just in case I was a total flop)! Then, of course, I could forget it ever happened and nobody had to know (except for the millions of strangers who may have caught it on television). I have heard it said that whenever we are afraid of something, whether it be divorce, illness, death, rejection, or public speaking, what we are really afraid of is not being able to handle these things when and if they do happen.
Don’t Stay Stagnant
There is palpable pain in remaining stagnant. And there is pain in not growing and not taking chances. There is pain in missing out on opportunities, and there is pain in not being everything you were put on this earth to be. Is there anything you have been too afraid to do? Switch careers? Ask someone out on a date? Speak in public? Let me just give you one of my favorite quotes, “Don’t let the fear of what could happen, make nothing happen”. Think about that.
NOTHING HAPPENING – now to me, THAT sounds scary! I decided I would trust God and I clung to Luke 21:15 which says “For I will give you words and wisdom that none of your adversaries will be able to resist or contradict”.So how did the show turn out you ask? …..
Facing My Fears: It Went Well!
It surprisingly turned out to be one of the best experiences of my life and I would do it again in a heartbeat! I know what you may be asking yourselves. “But what if it didn’t turn out well and it WAS a disaster”? I could live with that outcome before I could live with cowering to fear and never knowing what I was capable of. You are never the same on the other side of a personal challenge, and with each push, your self-esteem and zest for life are increased.
Don’t let fear steal your future! When I began to analyze what was at the root of my fear, I realized it was the fear of being judged and caring what people would think of me. I started to reflect on what I have always taught my son. I tell him often that I think one of the most freeing things I ever heard was that 10% of people will not like me. Or you! And it doesn’t matter how nice you are, pretty you are, funny, smart, or giving. It doesn’t matter, they will not like you! Move on to the people that think you are fantastic. There are about 90% of those! This always snaps me back to reality! Facing my fears feels so much easier!
God Will Guide You
Something I learned from facing my fears is that if God puts an opportunity in front of you he will surely enable you to walk through it, he will also give you the peace that surpasses all understanding when we ask for it. This experience also showed me that he’s not only interested in healing us from our physical ailments but our emotional ones as well. I’m hoping some of you step out of your comfort zone today and start creating the life you really want! To watch one of my current interviews on God TV’s Know the Cause click here and start at the 20:50 mark.
Throughout our lives, we will face fears that are big and small. Today with the virus hitting our world fears will naturally enter all of our minds at least temporarily. However the closer we are to God in our relationship with Him, the more of examples we have of past situations where He has walked us through each fear to the other side. This is a perfect time in our lives to be still and quiet with God and grow in our relationship with Him.
Now a recipe for beef fajitas:
- ¾ lb Marinated Skirt or Flank Steak (antibiotic/hormone-free)
- Wraps (wheat/yeast free)
- Yellow Pepper
- Green Pepper
- Red Pepper
- Sweet Onion
- Mozzarella Cheese
- Fresh Cilantro
- Salsa (optional)
- Sour Cream (optional)
- I bought a flank steak already marinated. We cooked the meat and the vegetables on the grill. Cut vegetables lengthwise and brush vegetables with olive oil and salt and pepper. Place meat and vegetables separately on the grill. And grill meat for about 5-7 minutes, then flip the meat and cook for an additional 2-5 minutes.
- Remove from grill and slice against the grain about ¼ inch thick. Place wraps on the grill for approximately 5 seconds, then remove from grill and add meat, vegetables, and cheese to your wrap. Top with cilantro, salsa, and sour cream if desired.
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