Did you grow up learning that giving of yourself and sacrificing your needs for others is one of the most holy things you can do? The truest act of Love even.
Maybe you were highly praised for doing so everywhere you went especially in the church. As it should because it is a beautiful way to love if done in a healthy way. The way God intended.
If not done in a healthy way it can lead to self neglect and self dependence instead of depending on God. It could even stop you from helping and caring for others all together because of the burden of giving without receiving is not a load we were meant to carry.
Self Care and Self Love Is Biblical
As followers of Christ we often tend to skip over to the part that Jesus dies for us all and heals and helps many people along the way. So as good Christians that want to be more like Him we want to do the same and require others to do so. I know I did. These are all amazing things but I’d like to lighten your burden by reminding you that God through out the Bible is also for TLC and self care just as much as sacrifice.
From Abraham to Ester and all the way to Jesus; they all let God fill them up before they became who you know them as today.
Before Jesus even began His ministry in His 30’s all those years He was soaking in the “Self Care Tub” of His Father God’s presence and love for Him. He was being tended to and cared for by His earthly mother Mary. He also was in synagogues learning and being encouraged by those around Him. Yes, Jesus received before He gave.
Ester was beautified, cleansed and prepared before entering into her role as Queen. So if you were doubting if taking care of yourself first before pouring love into others was biblical or approved by God… it not only is but it’s highly encouraged by Him.
It is not selfish to heal your broken parts before tending to others wounds. It is actually more selfless than you think. You will give MORE of yourself when you’re full, healed and whole.
Mary, the mother of Jesus first took care of her relationship with God and her spiritual health. That is what prepared her for the most selfless act you could ask of a mother.
Now, it doesn’t mean you have to be perfect before you are generous with your care for others. But just like a bank account learn to manage what you have. Do not go negative and use a credit card so you can give something you truly don’t have. Be honest and kind with yourself with what you can truly give in this season and its ok if you your love looks different right now. It may look like saying, “not now but I can’t wait till I can!”
Being genuine and true is selfless and holy.
You Are Worthy
You are worthy of the same energy you give your job, friends and family.
You are worthy of the attention you freely give to the everyday things that demand yours.
You are WORTH-y.
God said so when He sacrificed His life for you. His sacrifice is enough so YOU can just focus in being in that “hot tub” of His love.
Give from a place of abundance. The more you want to give the more you need to receive. Let God love you and show you how to love yourself and others. Let Him teach you to fall involve with yourself.
Let the well of His adoration for you overflow inside you. Then it will pour out naturally and effortlessly into others. Creating streams and rivers of love for anyone that draws near to you.
“Teacher, which commandment in the law is the greatest?” Jesus answered him,
“Love the Lord your God with every passion of your heart, with all the energy of your being, and with every thought that is within you. This is the great and supreme commandment. And the second is like it in importance: You must love your friend in the same way you love yourself.” Matthew 22:36-39 TPT