Founders of The Belonging Co. Church, Pastor Henry and Alex Seeley, have some great advice for married couples on overcoming struggles that may come to surface during quarantine.
Pastors Henry and Alex Seeley
The couple moved from Australia to Nashville, Tennessee in 2012. They started at the church as worship leaders and became head pastors of the congregation not long after. Today, The Belonging Co Worship team composes of some well-known Christian artists of this generation.
Currently, the head pastors also shifted to online and live stream church services amid the stay-at-home order. In an interview with The Christian Post, Henry and Alex Seeley shared practical wisdom on keeping marriage strong and healthy in this difficult time.
Alex said that quarantine reveals the foundation of the marriage. “It’s a real great indicator to see whether it was built on true relationship and conflict resolution, honoring and serving one another. I think it’s a really important time for family and marriages to get it right,” Alex stated. She further said that she only had one fight with her husband during the 42 days of lockdown.
Marriage in crisis
The Christian Post asked the couple for suggestion on how to reestablish the foundation of marriage for couples who are in crisis.
“I would just say, look inward rather than outward. Don’t look at your spouse’s issues. Look at your issues and ask, ‘What am I reacting to? Why am I getting offended? Why am I getting frustrated?’ Write it down and then in a calm, cool, collected way, not in the heat of the moment,” Alex shared. “Sit down and say, ‘I think these are areas that we need to work on and first admit fault. Be the first to say sorry, and be the first to go, ‘Hey, this is my issue but I think together we need to deal with it.”
Henry said, “Because God knew if you’re a couple that’s married before the Lord, God’s in covenant with you. So there’s no reason for it to not work. It just means that you’ve got to get in and do a bit of work, especially in a moment like this.”
“We’re so busy with other things with life, with work, with all these other distractions,” he continued. “That you can go 10 or even 20 years without ever really dealing with some of these things that need to be dealt with. Use this time to just kind of get in that place with the Holy Spirit and ask Him to help in those areas,” he continued.
Fight for each other
He added, “I think oftentimes, it’s easy to forget that you’re on the same team. I think a lot of couples kind of fight from their own side of the playing field in marriage… You’re not on opposing sides.”
“From day one of our marriage, we haven’t always lived that out perfectly by any means. But we’ve always come back to that place of, ‘Hang on, we’re on the same team, why are we fighting against each other? We should be fighting for each other and for this marriage, so let’s get on the same page here,’” he exhorted.
Source: The Christian Post